《Life Lessons》读后感200字
喜欢这种简单明了地阐述人生经验的书。每个人的经历不同，尤其现代人经历的挫折更少，知道已经发生和可能发生的挫折和应对办法对自己和家人都是一种财富。
—Make time every day to do things that make you feel good and that are caring towards yourself.
—Mindfulness means bringing attention to the present moment in a way that is open and accepting.
Bringing mindfulness to your life makes you more present and in the moment. Mindful people tend to be more aware of what is happening in their bodies and in their lives.
Bringing mindfulness to your emotions means you are more aware of your self and less controlled by those emotions or by the problems that arise day to day.
When we are mindful we are not worrying about the future or things that haven’t happened. We are also not ruminating about the things that happened in the past. This means that mindfulness is extremely important and healing for individuals who suffer with depression or anxiety.
—Every day do your best to breathe and be centred in your life. Pay attention to the little details and spend more time in the present moment rather than in the past or in the future. That means being aware of your thoughts and whether they go to the past or future, breathing and letting go and bringing your thoughts back to the present moment.
—If you are emotionally sensitive, embrace it. It is a gift and you must find a way to use it to your advantage.
—Life is too short so make sure to have periods during the day that lessen your stress levels. When possible, change up stressful situation and make time for relaxation every day.
—Take time every day for your mental health, especially when you are not well.
Everyone will struggle with mental health problems at some point in his or her life. It is normal to struggle when things are tough or bad things happens or even with medical problems that may occur.
—The biggest thing with mental illness is to never lose hope. Keep inspired and motivated and remember that although some times can be bad there are always good times as well.
—The older we get the more grief we experience. It is part of living.
Grief is such a tough experience in life. We will all suffer from loss especially the older we get. One of the hardest parts of growing older is the amount of grief one suffers increases with age.
—Whatever the values are that you want to impart, keep at it over and over. Repetition really does work with kids.
—In summary, my most important rule for parenting is to remember validate the child’s emotion and challenge negative behaviours. Be consistent, loving and present with your child. When they are speaking look at them and put your iPhone down. Turn off the desire to nag and instead talk to them like humans. Maintaining an open dialogue with your teen is so important. You may not like what they have to say so keep your judgments to yourself but always offer validation, support and unconditional love.
—Work hard and rest hard.
—Sometimes we can’t change things and that means we have to change our attitudes and accept the reality of the situation. That requires breathing and letting go of what we cannot change. In that case, something has to shift inside us so that we can find a different way to view the situation and look at it through different eyes.
—Breathe deep and repeat after me: It Is what It Is.
Radical acceptance has helped me so much in my life and it is a very challenging practice. The idea of radical acceptance comes from Buddhism and I learned about it in my Dialectical Behavioural Therapy training.
Radical acceptance means to fully and wholly accept the realty of a situation. There is a kind of freedom that comes from being able to accept something. When you accept the pain of a situation you stop the suffering. I like the mantra “it is, what it is” and it fits with the idea of acceptance well.
—ust because you accept a situation does not mean you have to forgive or forget. It just means you accept what occurred fully. When you over acceptance to your pain you are able to move forward more freely.
—Another thing I can say about illness is it is worth getting second, third and forth opinions as well as utilizing naturopathic doctors or other registered health care providers. I have always found naturopathic doctors to be of great value in my own health and that of my family. They provide a unique perspective and alternative views of both illness and healing. It can be pricey though but some employee’s benefits plans will cover some portion of the cost.
—Treat the people you love how you want to be treated and don’t waste time with emotional vampires.
—I find people stay in their relationships for too long some times. If you are being treated poorly or your heart is just not in it. It’s okay to move on from the relationship.
—I once read somewhere that the best marriage advice is to ask your partner ever day, What can I do to make you happy? If we all lived like that it could change the world. Of course, one must also ask the same question of oneself. What can you do to make yourself and your partner happy.
—I think of emotions as another sense like hearing or taste. Our emotions give us information about what is going on inside ourselves and outside of ourselves.
In terms of parenting, teaching your children to understand their emotions is a gift. Always validate their feelings but challenge negative behaviours
Sometimes we forget that most people are unable to regulate their emotions until about age 23 when the brain is finally able to regulate.
My best advice to getting back to baseline is to take time out for yourself. Even a half an hour will be helpful. As well, figure out the purpose of the emotions, why you feel like you do. At the same time, talk kindly to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up or invalidate the feeling you have.
My best tips for regulating emotions:
a) Engage in a breathing technique such as counting your breath or repeating a mantra. While you are breathing put a half smile on your face. It is helpful because it sends a different message to your brain. It is not used to stuff away your emotions, just to take a break from them.
b) Get some exercise. Do something that elevates your heart rate such as going for a run, boxing, skipping, walking up and down stairs. Even a few minutes makes a big difference in moving that energy out of the body. Put on your favourite music and dance.
c) Lay flat on the floor or with your legs up a wall. This is a restorative and relaxing yoga pose that most anyone can do and it is helpful for the body and the mind. Do not do this pose if you are pregnant, or have glaucoma or high blood pressure or health problems without consulting your doctor.
d) Do things that make you feel good. Many people I speak with don’t even know what makes them feel good or have any idea about things they enjoy doing. It is essential to figure it out and make time for positive things every day. Sometimes you have to try a bunch of things to see if you like them or not.
e) Soothe yourself with healthy things. What can you do that will help you feel better in this moment. It should be something healthy that makes you feel nurtured in some way. Cuddling up in a warm blanket on the couch in front of a fire, going for a run, sleeping in on your day off. Many soothing things are sensory. Think about things you like to see, hear, feel, taste, smell and increase those things as a way to soothe yourself.
f) Laugh. Have your list of go-to’s for when you need to laugh. Funny videos, television shows,comedy, people. Whatever it is get yourself to laugh. It really helps shake up the stress levels in the brain as well.
g) Acceptence. Accept whatever your feelings are and allow them to come and also to go. Do not stuff them down or explore them out. Just allow them to process. If they are hard to let go it means you have to do some work with them so pull out your journal and figure out what the trigger is and where in your past it reminds you off. Work at letting it go and continue to practice acceptance of your emotions.
—If the only prayer you saId was thank you, It would be enough.
—My experience says that if we bring both awareness and self-compassion to the painful things in our life, we can and do get through them. Anything you can do to bring happiness into your life and your relationships will benefit you and lead you on a path to a more satisfying life.